TO RELATE..

dis is one topic I read recently and I thought it is necessary dat I share it wit everyone..

First of all I shud start off with sayin de basic difference between relating and relationship.. relating is to love and relationship is to marry.. relating is somethn dat s somethn still open, free flowin and unending but relationship is closed, finished and complete..

we would all prefer for a relationship bcos it gives more security and stability.. but dat is point where de love ends.. love no more flows.. its de point where ppl start takin de other for granted and love dies there.. how can someone be so sure dat he knows de other person.. man is made so very complex dat it takes time for him to understand himself let alone others understandin him.. so first lesson in relationship is to keep de other person free of u.. and keep urself free of de other as well.. caring, being concern is all a part of relating.. its oly wen u relate that u can give de other person all dat u can..

Human beings are processes.. and processes do change.. and how can u take processes for granted.. de person u see today is definitely different tomo.. de person u spoke to today cannot be de same tomo.. and so now where s de point of sayin u kno de person very well.. wen u relate u see ur companion as a person u have never met.. u always see him as a person with frsh ideas and a new person.. If u think ur companion does not change then he or she has to be a TV or a computer that does not change..


Wen u re relating u always try to get acquainted.. u always try to delve into de others mind and try to find new things about them u’ll start accepting the different faces of the other’s personality.. but in a realtionship u’ll always want de other person to fulfill ur wishes and u’ll always want them to behave de way u want them to..

Relating will make de other person a mirror.. u can start reading urself from them.. and start learning as much as possible from them..But in a realationship u do not see them eye to eye.. u do not see their inner feelings u do not see de deepest beauty in them.. it s de fear of losing them dat makes u get into a relationship.. it s at dis point dat de love for de other dies.. wen de expectations increase love no more remains de same.. wen u start expecting de person to do somethn for u.. de more u kno abt de person de mysterious he gets.. Realting is about finding new ways of loving the other person.. it’s a honeymoon dat would go on and on..

When u re closed u cannot relate urself.. it s necessary that u remain open to ideas and share them as well.. Explore urself and start loving de inner self.. generally ppl tend not to look into themselves bcos each person is ugly within.. and they do not want to bring the ugliness out.. Jealousy, Possessiveness are something dat everyone wud get rid of once they start relating..

Find out urself first..love urself.. make urself beautiful and then a lovely heart will automatically find a lovely heart for itself..


There is one controversial idea that I came across.. ppl u can put in ur comments on dat too.. isn marriage jus a means of securing onselves and makin sure by legal contract dat de person does not leave de other..?? marriage is relationship and relationship puts an end to love.. and if love has to continue evn after marriage it is necessary dat ppl start learning to relate themselves.. marriage is jus about security and guarantee.. isn love itself a guarantee???

Only for u roommate..

ok.. now dat i have started bloggin ??!!??? i think i shud start writn somethn good.. so de first thing dat has come to my mind s.. Iniyaal.. my besstttessttt frnd.. i bet no one cud've ever got such a frnd.. and am absolutely proud and i can even boast of havn such a lovely human being as my friend.. let me rewind.. if am not mistaken it s somewhere around de 1st week of august dat i met dis gal in de counselling hall.. i din have ny opinion abt her really.. but later i learnt dis gal thot i was de nastiest gal in de world.. nothn wrong in wat she thot.. but then fate.. she had to be wit me for de next 4 yrs.. and i think i have given her all kinds of torture dat human kind wud ever have known.. but then yes she s definitely lucky to have me as her wonderful frnd tho.. hehe.. yes.. comin back to de tortures dat i have inflicted on her.. well it won be rite to say "i inflicted on her" bcos we were like 6 ppl in our "GANG" and it always happens dat iniyaal wud have a diffeerent opinion from de rest of us.. she s act mother teresa's grand daughter.. she wud love her enemies .. and de worst part is she loves our enemies too.. so de 5 of us re almost always on a mission to oppose her opinions.. we wud make sure we don play de songs dat she wud want to listen.. and u wont believe she literally ahd a headache listenin to de same song for like de whole day.. nevertheless she has indeed tortured me with that wonderfull voice of hers.. i wud say it rightly as narambugal pudaika paadradhu.. got to learn it from her.. hats off iniyaal.. and one more thing i have always trie to learn from her is to be sincere, punctual, absolutely sincere and absolutely punctual.. she s de epitome of all de words u cud use as a synonym for sincerity.. and can u believe she reads de book rite from de first page to de last.. yes she reads preface too.. and i do de work of spreadin dis thing to de entire coll.. i really really admire her talent of advisinf.. she can go on and on and on non stop.. seriously.. don kno frm where she gets de stamina to advice ppl 24/7.. jokes apart she s de most caring and wonderful thing i have ever known.. i feel totally blessed to have a frnd like her.. and now dat she s earnin i feel even blessed.. ;) thanks iniyaal for havn put up wit me for 4 long yrs..

what is all dis..??

Thanks to my frnds preeti and karthik.. they re de ppl who have act introduced me to dis blog stuff.. now dat i have gone thru dis really long preocedure of registrn myself wit dis website, P.S i had to go thru de procedure like 3 4 times cos of my wonderful wifi connection which goes off most of de time for some wierd reason dat god oly knows and i truly feel ashamed for havn failed to unearth de reasons for de wifi bein so jittery as de financial markets inspite of bein a communication engnn. and guess wat my area of interest is wireless communication atleast dats wat my resume said few months back.. well. where was i.. ( quite a long note.. ) yes.. now dat i have gone thru dis whole lot of procedure of registering am into to deep thinkn of wat i have to write.. and i am still wonderin wat ppl really write.. hmmm.. well nither am a biker to speak of my wonderful experience meetin with accidents.. neither am i a photographer to put up all my work.. i say all dis bcus dis s wat my frnds re doin currently in their blogs.. so thot atleast i cud do somethn like wat they do.. but jus realised am dis really really normal person with jus de very normal skills of readin writin and speakin.. so am still in deep thoughts figuring out wat i am to write in dis.. ppl pls forgive me if u feel am writin crap.. pl do bear wit me for may be another 2 3 days.. i may prob turn into dis super duper blogger in sometime.. yes.. am gonna spit out evrythn dat comes to my mind rite now..
well.. no.. am full.. jus had some delicious food at royal southern.. and am totally full.. my brain seems to instruct my eyes to see evrythn upside down.. i think to begin wit i have written enuf.. with de hopes of turnin into an excellent blogger i end dis day..